WHERE'S THE LOVE DAMMIT!

I'm surrounded by many people.  Not necessarily by choice. But I have to admit that I'm a person people tend to be drawn to.  People divulge things with me that I've never intended to know.  But this isn't the purpose I'm writing today.  

Just in the past week, I've witnessed sisters disrespect each other.  I've seen granddaughters disrespect their Grandmothers.  Really?  What the hell have we evolved to?  We sit and wonder what the hell the world has come to, but forget to look ourselves in the mirror!

So I know this wonderful African American woman who is almost in her 80's.  She looks great and has aged really well.  She was born and raised in Alabama.  She has gone through and witnessed many things in life.  She's a very respectful woman and would give you her all if she felt it could benefit you.  I happen to meet her about thirteen years ago when my oldest was only four months old.  She is a foster parent, and has been one for the past fourteen years.  She has seen a LOT of trouble kids come through her home, and somehow she has been able to turn their lives around for the better!  She stays in prayer for both child and their families, with hopes that one day they all would be united. Family is very important to her.  

Well one day she was visiting a friend, and that friend got a phone call.  The friend saw that it was the lady's granddaughter and placed the line on speaker to include her in the conversation.  What she didn't know was that the granddaughter was going to began popping off at the mouth about her granddaughter.  It was very embarassing for the friend and very hurtful for the Granddaughter.  So hurtful she shared this with me.  She didn't want to go to her family, for fear of them jumping on the granddaughter.  She was commenting on all "those dirty, nasty, and bad kids".  She didn't want her children around them, and she didn't know why her grandmother had to be taking care of them etc. etc.  BUT she quick to come and dump her three kids off anyway!  

I would never EVER allow myself to think such things of my grandmother, yet repeat it to someone else behind her back.  My grandmother took care of me and my cousins everyday before and after school, while our parents worked.  We always came home to a huge dinner and snacks.  My mom has eight siblings so there were a lot of us grandkids at the end of the day!!!  But most of the time my siblings and I were the last to leave at night.  I remember every one of those nights my grandmother would get ready to get in bed and I would get a hot soapy towel and wash her feet for her.  I would fix her hair for her before she put her night cap on.  She didn't HAVE to ask us to do anything for her.  If she said she needed it done we did it, no questions asked!  She passed away when I was thirteen.  She was the only grandmother I knew.  

The two sisters and I work together.  Everyday it's something different.  One has a car, but can't pick or drop the other one to and from work and she only lives maybe eight blocks away.  "I rode the bus when I didn't have my car, why can't she?"  The other one is always embarassed because the other is soo "ghetto" in public and will publicly correct her.  The both of them will help a stranger before they help each other.  What the hell kind of shit is this?  There's no way "either" one of my three younger sisters will be needing something and I allow or look for someone else to do for them.  They disrespect and argue with each other at work.  But turn around and complain that nothing is going right for them.

I've had enough.  I have decided that I can no longer allow a granddaughter to continue to completely disrespect her grandmother.  I will not bash, call names, or pick a fight.  I am simply going to explain what I see and express how I think it's wrong.  I've already said my so with the sisters.  I have not held back nor have I sugar coated anything either.  Where I've seen wrong I have stated. But one thing I have also tried to do is show them how they need each other.  I've tried to motivate the two of them to try sit and have a rational conversation about what is causing the two of them to treat each other as so.  It's time to get rid of the "dysfunctional" frame of mind.  

We wonder why we're having a hard time with white society and the stronghold that it may have on us.  Why can't we get ahead, and we're still lacking? Hell we can't even take care of the things that are the most closest and most important to US!!! 

My parents are still alive but divorced.  I talk to my mom almost everyday, and my dad I talk to at least once a week.  I have three younger sisters whom I love and cherish very dearly.  You mess with one of us you have to deal with ALL of us.  We don't and won't play with anybody when it comes to our family. We pray and uplift one another, and if one has beef with the other we see to it that everyone hashes it out.  We don't like going to sleep being mad each other either, and you won't find us dishing out any dirty laundry if there is any!!!!  

If our families continue to fall apart I don't think we'll be able to build a better foundation amongst the rest of us.  Of course this was me on my soapbox.  Feel free to comment and I appreciate the time you've taken out as always to read my blog!

~Miyah~